My married future husband says we can marry first and register it later. Should I agree?

No; ‘marry first, register later’ puts all the risk on your shoulders and those of the children to come. Without registration, it is hard for you to prove the marriage when claiming maintenance, your turn in the rota or inheritance. Late registration also involves legal action and an exhausting process. Ask him calmly: ‘Why don't we apply for the court's permission first?’ Watch how he answers. If he wants to keep the marriage secret from his wife, think about what that says about his honesty with you later. A man who is truly able and ready will be willing to go through the lawful process. See effects of a secret marriage.