💍 Khitbah & engagement · #75

My future spouse is often rude to my family during our engagement. Should I take it seriously?

Yes, take it seriously; being rude to your family during the engagement, when they should be showing their best side, is a weighty sign. The engagement is usually when people try hardest to impress, so rudeness now often gets worse later. Talk to them calmly and give specific examples of what hurt, then watch how they respond: do they admit it and improve, or deny it and blame you? Respect the feelings of your family, who may see something you have missed. If the pattern continues, think very carefully before going ahead. Consult someone you trust or a counsellor if needed. See counselling.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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