Should a prospective second wife meet the first wife before marrying?

It is not obligatory, but a good meeting — if the first wife is willing — can help a great deal. It shows good intentions, reduces misunderstanding and gives a true picture of the family situation. But do not press; the first wife may not yet be emotionally ready, and that is her right. Ideally the husband arranges it with the agreement of both parties, in a neutral place, perhaps with family members present. Avoid meetings meant to show off or to argue. Humility and respect for the first wife's feelings are very important.