🧭 Region & Middle East · #76

We live in Johor and our child goes to school in Singapore, commuting every day. Is this too much of a burden on the child?

It depends on the child; watch their tiredness and emotions, not just their exam results. Early-morning travel and border congestion can cut into time for sleep, play and religious learning. Ask your child honestly how they feel, and talk with their teacher. Signs to pay attention to include difficulty waking up, irritability, frequent illness or loss of interest. If you continue, protect their sleep and breakfast, use the travel time to chat or listen to Qur'an recitation, and make sure weekends are truly for rest. Reassess this decision every year with your spouse. See children.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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