Apa itu merisik dan apa adabnya?

Merisik ialah langkah awal bertanya secara tidak rasmi sama ada seorang wanita masih bebas dan sudi dipinang. Dalam adat Melayu, wakil keluarga lelaki datang bertanya tentang status wanita itu (belum berpunya, belum dipinang orang), latar belakang keluarga dan kesudiannya. Dari segi syarak, merisik selaras dengan anjuran memastikan wanita tidak dalam pinangan orang lain, tidak dalam idah, dan sesuai dari segi agama serta akhlak. Adabnya: hantar wakil yang dihormati, berbual dengan sopan, tidak mendesak jawapan segera, dan merahsiakan hasil risikan jika tidak diteruskan. Jika keputusan positif, barulah dilakukan peminangan rasmi. Lihat khitbah .

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What is merisik and what is its etiquette?

Merisik is the first step of asking informally whether a woman is still free and willing to receive a proposal.
In Malay custom, a representative of the man's family comes to ask about the woman's status (not yet spoken for, not yet proposed to), her family background and her willingness. In Shariah terms, merisik is in line with the advice to make sure the woman is not under another man's proposal, not in her ʿiddah, and suitable in terms of religion and character. Its etiquette: send a respected representative, converse politely, do not press for an immediate answer, and keep the findings confidential if it does not go ahead. If the outcome is positive, then the formal proposal is made. See khitbah.

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Sahih al-Bukhari 5142Surah al-Baqarah 2:235

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