Our community and family expect us to hold a big wedding reception we cannot afford. What should we do?

Your means, not people's expectations, should decide the size of your reception. Spending big or going into debt to keep up appearances brings a burden that lasts long after the reception is over. Plan a reception that is simple but full of blessing, and intend it for Allah, not for show. Explain to your family calmly that you are choosing simplicity for financial reasons and on principle, not out of stinginess. People who truly care will understand; other opinions should not control your decisions. Put starting your marriage free of debt ahead of one lavish day. See family finances.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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