Anak dah besar sikit, boleh ke dia pilih nak tinggal dengan ibu atau ayah?

Dalam mazhab Syafi'i, anak yang sudah mumayyiz (lazimnya sekitar 7 tahun) diberi pilihan untuk tinggal bersama ibu atau bapa, berdasarkan hadis Nabi ﷺ yang memberi pilihan kepada seorang budak antara ibu dan bapanya. Pilihan ini sah jika kedua-dua ibu bapa layak. Jika seorang tidak layak, contohnya mengabaikan solat atau membahayakan anak, hak itu tidak diberikan kepadanya. Di Malaysia, mahkamah syariah mempertimbangkan kehendak anak tetapi keputusan akhir berdasarkan kebajikan anak : pendidikan, keselamatan dan kestabilan. Pihak yang tidak mendapat hak jagaan biasanya diberi hak lawatan. Rujuk Mahkamah Syariah negeri anda untuk prosedur.

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🌍 Anak, pusaka & global · #9

Once a child is a little older, can they choose to live with their mother or father?

In the Shafi'i school, a child who has reached discernment (mumayyiz) (usually around 7 years old) is given the choice to live with the mother or the father, based on the hadith in which the Prophet ﷺ gave a boy the choice between his mother and father. This choice is valid if both parents are qualified. If one is not qualified, for example by neglecting prayer or endangering the child, that right is not given to them. In Malaysia, the Syariah Court considers the child's wishes but the final decision is based on the child's welfare: education, safety and stability. The party who does not get custody is usually given access rights. Refer to your state Syariah Court for the procedure.

Difference between schools. The Hanafi school gives no choice; a son returns to his father once he is independent, and a daughter stays with her mother until puberty. The Maliki school keeps the mother's custody longer.

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Narrated by Abu Dawud and at-Tirmidhi (sahih)

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